Do not, never, ever... validate your husband when he talks about OW, wtf.... Thats weak, and he won't respect you one inch as long as you do that. Be strong, be independent, and let him deal with his issues.
He doesn't talk about the OW with me, which is good. He knows better. I see what you mean though. H saying that is tired... from living a double life, at least that's how I interpret it. Otherwise, I don't acknowledge anything relating to the OW. At one point, she got injured and it required her to go to the ER. One of her relatives texted my H from her phone letting him know what was going on. I did not say anything other than, "I bet that hurt." That response was before finding this site.
