Howdy hoo ya'll. I feel bad not keeping up with everyone, reading their threads and commenting.... but I find that they bring me down regardless if they are positive or negative posts.
I have been thinking of this dating thing more and more. A friend mine was saying how it is necessary to put yourself out there so you can see what is out there for you. And I agree. At this point, almost turning 38, I feel like the family dream is slipping away and that makes me sad. I need to dedicate my life to something... I guess I could always dedicate it to my career and go work for one of the major silicon valley companies.. ahh who knows.
Anyway, I started to dabble in the online world. Nothing serious, if anything comes up cool, if not it's ok. I found something interesting. I am highly desirable to a specific group of women...... 40+, which I guess makes sense. Even at my gym the 40+ crowd is heavily flirtatious. Very little in my ideal range 30-36ish. Online is tough in this age group, it is all about looks which I guess is the essence of online dating. I don't think I am ugly but have a few things going against me... namely hair, height and being divorced. 5'6 is not ideal and I am not going to lie about it on there. I don't get why someone 5'2 needs someone 6 ft plus. Anyway, if you look at the rest of the resume it looks good! But I don't flaunt it on there. I have a high paying job and I think it would be super difficult to guess my salary by looking at me or interacting with me. I have 2 masters, but again I'm not talking about that online. I am in tip top shape but there are no gym mirror selfies of me or even me in tight clothes. Even in person, you can't really tell my level of fitness. No debt minus my mortgage, good savings, fully funded retirement. I can tell you all of this because no one here actually knows me so it doesn't matter. But none of this stuff is going to come across online, and honestly, I don't want it to. Ideally, I want someone to be drawn to me for me and then she can slowly uncover all that other stuff as we go along and be pleasantly surprised. So I'm not sure online is the way to go for me.
Oh and another thing in regards to dating. I have a friend and he wants to set me up with his GF's friend. She fits my 'type' and he knows that. So I say ok... what's her story? He says ohh... well she just got out of a 10 year relationship. She left him but she wasn't happy for years. And instantly I'm like naw... I'm good. Thanks though. He responds... you don't even want to meet her? I say no... thank you though. Is that weird?
Ah well... good news is that my house hits the market this week! Change of scenery will do me good!
