I haven’t chimed in for sometime; you have things well in hand and have lots of support.
As for Facebook Guy, maybe even others, tell him. Ask him. You can make the first move also if you want too. I know you are figuring out where your feelings are, perhaps he is as well. Don’t worry about you breaking the ice, stereotypical rules need not apply.
To change topics. TV’s in the kids’ rooms. I get it, not something H would have agreed to, or done, before.
There is little point in talking to him about it. For the most part what happens at his house, is his business, and not your concern. Obviously the safety and emotional well-being of your kids is paramount no matter where they are. Too much screen time, doesn’t make that list, so hands off for you.
What you can do is talk to your kids when they are with you. Ensure they understand why less screen time is important. That homework is important, getting outside, exercise, seeing friends, etc... are important, as well as watching TV or playing games (the screen time). Instill and inspire an attitude, a value, within your children regarding this and they will monitor their own time - both when with you or Dad.
I am sure the kids will still sit and watch more than you would like (almost guarantee that). However, you know what you can control. This falls under the “pick your battles” thinking, it just isn’t worth fighting over. If you speak with kids, let them control their time, demonstrate trust and openness, your kids and you will be much closer and further in sync when the real problems arise.
You are the stable parent, continue to be that. Keep building a solid foundation for them. At times it is difficult, aggravating, time consuming, and takes considerable effort and forethought; and yields huge and incredible dividends - stable, healthy, young adults.
A final thought for today, something I’ve been mulling over for a while.
Live, laugh, and love like you’ve never been hurt.
Nice words. Even nicer when you “really” understand them and put them into practice. It takes a fearless outlook and a soft and squishy heart. I believe you understand, and it looks like you are living it. (((DejaVu6)))
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
