I'm going to be blunt. I've read the last couple of threads and you're smothering him. I also think you have the patience of a saint because I would probably have literally smothered him by now!!
If you are deciding to stand for this marriage then you have to accept that you are not going to get the reassurances that you crave. Yet. He has asked you for time, without pressure and without expectation. You did both this weekend. You want it to be perfect when he's there, you're bothered that he's going to throw it back in your face etc etc. You're looking after him too much, walking on eggshells and he feels that pressure and expectation. Stop hovering and leave him be.
He has stated his intention that once his work pressures are over he wants to work hard at it. If you choose to believe him then you have to stand back and wait. Be patient and take the pressure off you both.
You talk about having your needs met. Have a think about those needs. I don't know what they are, but are they needs that can only be met by him, or could they / should they be met from within yourself?
