Hello, I’m looking for perspective and advice here. My husband moved out 11 months ago. We have a 3 year old daughter, and he comes here several times a week to see her, so we end up spending a fair amount of time together. I’ve been getting mixed signals from him throughout, but every time I’ve brought up reconciliation, he says he wants a divorce. But he hasn’t filed. Things were tense in the beginning of the separation and every time we argued he’d say he wanted a divorce. I decided to be patient, and to get therapy and really “clean up my side of the street” as I very much want to stay married to him. Things seemed to have plateaued recently; we have been getting along well, even chatting/joking and generally enjoying each other’s company. Then on Monday he texted me that he wants to move forward with the divorce. And last night he brought the (blank) papers to my house. We had a 3 hour talk, and I did propose reconciliation (for the first time in months; Ive just been being warm and kind and not talking about it for a long time now). He was very receptive to the things I was saying, asking follow up questions, etc. it seemed like he was sooooooo close to saying he’d give it try many times in the convo, but by the end he was saying it’s too late and he wants to file the papers. I know that I should probably give up, but I just can’t seem to. It felt like he was so close. Does anyone have any insight/advice/experience with a similar situation?
