Not Sure Where This Is Going

[Niall11]

She texted me that we needed milk, first words in two days.

Your reply- "good, as long as you're going can you also pick up X, Y and Z."

She added snarkily that she had a dance event for tonight (Friday) but could cancel if that wasn't enough notice for me and I had other plans.

This was a text? Doesn't sound snarky to me, be careful not to read something in that may not be there.

She then texted that she doesn't want to discuss what happened "right now," had never expected me to say some of the things I said, but will have more to say at some point. I replied, "I understand. I know you are upset."

Good response.

Got up and left this morning with a kiss for D2 but not a word to me.

Tell her "see you later", it's not going to make the world explode. Detachment is not being cold/ rude/ indifferent. Detachment is saying something to her and not caring if she responds or not.

About the milk, I was out at a meeting and she had just put D2 to bed. Couldn't go out to get milk without waking and taking her. So I wasn't going to be a jerk about it. When the roles are reversed she picks it up. I want to collaborate as smoothly as possible where our D is concerned.

Exact text: "1. I had noted the calendar but wrong month. 2. I had something for tomorrow BUT apparently it is last minute for you so are you doing something tomorrow? 3. I can cancel my plans."

You're right, it may not be intended as snark. Just struck me that way. She did add a few things to calendar so she's at least trying to give notice.

I can say "see you later." When I told her last night I was leaving for meeting, she turned her head away and said nothing. But I can keep saying that stuff.