Persistent Endurance (Part 2)

[Ready2Change]

So, my W sent an email this morning with a proposed parenting plan for this month. Basically, starting tonight the overnight schedule would be:
W 2 nights, H 2 nights, W 3 nights
then
H 2 nights, W 2 nights, H 3 nights
etc

This results in rotating Friday and Saturday nights, then rotating Sunday-Monday, then rotating Tuesday-Thursday.

Sounds like a 50/50 plan. I would agree to that.

W plans to be at our marital house between 6-7pm each weeknight to ride and care for her horse and again at 10am on weekends.

I would give her two choices that you are OK with. 1) Pay you board for the horse. Take the horse elsewhere. (Don't let her cake eat) She moved out. That means get all her stuff out of YOUR house.

So, I think this means she plans to pick the kids up from school everyday as has been our normal routine.

H"That doesn't work for me anymore. I will be picking up dropping off the kids during my parenting time."

W also noted that she doesn't want to leave care of our marital property solely on me. She offered to bring the vacuum to clean the floors and help with lawn care, etc. I'm not sure how I feel about this,

H"Thanks for the offer, I'm perfectly capable of managing MY HOUSE"

She commented that she wants both of us to see the kids every day when humanly possible. It's still unclear to me how this is all going to work. I don't know if she is planning to eat dinner as a family each week night and then take the kids to her place on her overnights. Lots of uncertainty here. She is open to suggestions and changes.

"H, I think it is best if we both get the time and space we need to heal."

Any feedback and recommendations is appreciated. Thanks again to everyone for the support. This community has helped me detach tremendously from her words and actions affecting my spirits.

let her "feel" the consequences of her choices. She moved out. She should miss "the family" she broke up. You parent during your time. She parents during her time.


I suggest setting an exchange time of 6p. (Or whatever time works for you). And who ever has this kids drops them at the other parents place. Pickup parent [censored] waiting around.Negotiating every time [censored]. School days, the exchange happens after school. Whoever's night it is picks the kids up.