Hope all is well. Its been awhile since ive been on here. Just a quick update to my situation. We really don't speak anymore even though we still are living under the same roof. Makes it really difficult with kids. Last November she emailed me stating that she obtained a lease and would be moving out December 1st. She also said that she would be taking most of our furniture except for the kids mattress and would no longer be paying any bills associated with the house. Even though our house is still under water and shes equally responsible to service the debt. I replied by stating that its my understanding that she is abandoning her responsibilities and that I would have to take the necessary legal action. She then replied by saying she wasn't moving out. A couple months later we had a brief discussion about her trying to move out and she completely denied that she was going to move???? I told her that I still had the email and she said obtained is not the same as signing a lease. Seems to be semantics to me and confirms that shes still all over the place.
Things got worse from there. In January I learned that my 31 year old brother has an extremely rare and aggressive form of kidney cancer that metastasized to his lungs. Its stage 4 and the prognosis is grim. His case is so rare that its been all over the news and the community organized a fundraiser at a local restaurant. I'm really bothered that she hasn't shown any care regarding my brothers situation. Not only did she not go to the fundraiser( her parents did) but she hasn't even reached out to my mother or my brother or his wife, who she was close to. The fact that its my brother, but also that hes the godfather to our youngest child is really disheartening. She had brought it up to me a couple weeks ago saying that she feels awful and wanted to reach out but didn't because of me. Basically blaming me saying that I told her not to....which is 100 percent false. So I told her then that its completely fine for her to reach out and that my mother and brother would appreciate it. I later learned that she sent my brother a gift card for a local chain restaurant. Seemed a little cliché to me and totally lacked compassion.
But what happened on Tuesday completely blew my mind and probably closed me off forever with her. I spoke to her the night before about some bills for the house and my brothers situation came up. I expressed to her how dire it is and how I'm really worried about my mom because she is so overwhelmed. She just gave me that blank stare and again tried to blame me for why she hasn't reached out. Even though my mother bought her Christmas and birthday gifts recently. She even called my mother a few months ago to thank her for taking my daughter shopping. So we ended our conversation that night I went down to sleep on the couch. The next morning I get a text from my mother asking if I could drive her and my brother into the hospital to get his brain scanned and to meet with his doctors. I then called my wife to inform her and to make sure she was able to pick my son up from baseball practice. She said that's fine and I even told her the timeline for the day; basically scans during the day and meeting with doctors at 4:30 to get the results. I told her how nervous we all were.
Thank god I didn't check my email before the meeting with the doctors at 4:30. I realized at 7:15 that she sent me an email at 2:07 in the afternoon stating that its never a good time but that we still have to come up with a resolution to our marriage/divorce. And that she secured a lawyer and had filed for divorce! She wanted to know where they should mail the summons and that she felt it probably would be best to mail to my attorney. I was overwhelmed with pure disgust. How the hell could someone send an email like that knowing full well where I was and the gravity of the situation. My mother and brother felt the same. Its so obvious that she hates me with a passion and that she will do anything to hurt me.
