Persistent Endurance (Part 2)

[curtis7]

Had my kids back in the house last night. My D4 was whining and wanted to stay at mommy's new place because she liked the bunk beds and being able to eat dinner in the living room since she doesn't have a kitchen table yet. That hurt, but I know my D is too young to consider my feelings for what she says.

So, my W sent an email this morning with a proposed parenting plan for this month. Basically, starting tonight the overnight schedule would be:
W 2 nights, H 2 nights, W 3 nights
then
H 2 nights, W 2 nights, H 3 nights
etc

This results in rotating Friday and Saturday nights, then rotating Sunday-Monday, then rotating Tuesday-Thursday.

W plans to be at our marital house between 6-7pm each weeknight to ride and care for her horse and again at 10am on weekends. So, I think this means she plans to pick the kids up from school everyday as has been our normal routine.

W also noted that she doesn't want to leave care of our marital property solely on me. She offered to bring the vacuum to clean the floors and help with lawn care, etc. I'm not sure how I feel about this, I'm perfectly capable of managing the home, especially if I won't have the kids on a daily basis.

She commented that she wants both of us to see the kids every day when humanly possible. It's still unclear to me how this is all going to work. I don't know if she is planning to eat dinner as a family each week night and then take the kids to her place on her overnights. Lots of uncertainty here. She is open to suggestions and changes.

This is very weird, seems like she will be around me quite a bit. Is this a good thing during separation? I'm trying to distance myself and give her time and space. Should I make myself scarce when she's here? This all seems to be massive cake eating to me in that she can benefit from many of the perks of married life, then go off to participate in her active A's.

Any feedback and recommendations is appreciated. Thanks again to everyone for the support. This community has helped me detach tremendously from her words and actions affecting my spirits.