Keep in mind that they tend to "project" a lot of things on to the LBS. For example, her stating that you are playing games and being stubborn. Most likely she's the one that is attempting to move the chess pieces across the board in her favor. No one signs a blank contract. As for being stubborn, looks to me like the fantasy princess is the one being stubborn about a lot of things.
Continue as you have been. Listen to your lawyer. I think you have been and continue to be more than fair. As for the offer on the house...what did she not like about it? This may be something that can be pushed a bit w/the divorce decree. If she doesn't agree to sell, then you may want to speak to your lawyer about giving her the option of either burying you out within 90-120 days from the signing of the divorce decree or it's sold. She cannot have it all. She's going to find out that life isn't all about fairy dust and fantasy.
As for discovery, do you think that she will be able to prepare her responses to that? Keep your expectations at zero because I do not think she's going to life a hand to get this divorce done. Dig deeper for patience.
BTW, I think you've been handling your situation very well. I'm sure the birthday party will be a wonderful success.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
