Yesterday W came home from work straightaway. Continued to ignore me and refused to be in the same room. Honestly it is helping me detach because I find it so ridiculous. She's the one who shut down on me months ago and has been chasing other people. I said some harsh things Tuesday night, and probably should have shut my mouth, but none of them were untrue.
I took a long walk, then had the monthly meeting of a local committee. She texted me that we needed milk, first words in two days. After the meeting I dropped off the milk and went back out. A few of us go for a drink every month after the meeting. I had a great time and felt more like myself, joking and telling stories, than I have in a while.
She texted me that she had put the Tuesday event on the calendar, but on the wrong month, so she was sorry. I waited half an hour and just said, "OK." She added snarkily that she had a dance event for tonight (Friday) but could cancel if that wasn't enough notice for me and I had other plans. I was tempted to say I did have other plans, but I don't and I don't want to play games like that. She actually mentioned the event over a week ago. I told her to go and have a good time. I have something on Saturday.
I am thinking (didn't say) that the time apart will do us good. She then texted that she might come home between work and the evening event, or might go see her BFF who encouraged her to cheat with OW1. I said, "No problem." Right now I don't care what she does. She then texted that she doesn't want to discuss what happened "right now," had never expected me to say some of the things I said, but will have more to say at some point. I replied, "I understand. I know you are upset."
She spent Tuesday and Wed nights sleeping in the living room. I half expected to come home to find her in the MBR and was wondering if she'd try to tell me to sleep elsewhere. But she was asleep, in the living room again, when I returned. Got up and left this morning with a kiss for D2 but not a word to me. I find myself less concerned with where she chooses to sleep. That's her decision.
M 44, W 32 T 10, M 8 D 2 Oct '18: Fantasy affair with OW1 (yes, W) Feb '19: Inseparable from new lesbian BFF Still live together but a lot of tension