It looks like W still wants a D, but without you having legal counsel. Cannot make assumptions about her legal team, she may say she is going solo, but I think you can guess differently. You know you cannot sign a blank contract.
Her fantasy is starting to unravel regard the nice easy divorce in which everyone is friends and will sit on the deck sipping iced tea together. Well, that was my W’s future looking vision. I think they share this common fantasy.
Keep this as a business deal. Continue to use a lawyer. Things are already in play so you might as well see them through. I’m not sure of the process where you live, what happens after discovery? Is there a separation order? A deadline?
Originally Posted by Hamburg
It is about to get ugly.
Most likely - yes it is.
Be careful about expectations. It is good that you are preparing for her to get worse. However, she may very well just fade away and not do anything. If you are expecting her to blow up and she doesn’t - you will resent it. I know sounds weird. She could do something “better” and you won’t want that.
Expectations prepare us, initialize us for a certain outcome. When that doesn’t happen, we don’t feel right. Keep expectations to zero. Or an other way - expect anything.
Nice to hear about the house offer.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
I think they share this common fantasy.