So I have a few general questions - she has recently been trying to engage in conversations outside of kids, finances, etc. She asks me how I'm doing, tells me about x or y thing she bought. I do not respond to these texts. I don't feel compelled to respond to these and frankly they seem off. Is ignoring these idle fishing attempts the correct response? Is there a more appropriate action to take?
Sometimes reply right away, sometimes reply an hour or two later, and sometimes (if it's nothing important) don't reply at all. The impression you want to leave her with is that you are not being cold and indifferent, you're just a very busy person and don't particularly feel obligated to engage in idle chit-chat unless it suits you.
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And some advice requested; she wants to take S3 to an overnight thing for his b-day and invited me to stay the night with them. My initial reaction is to say no to the overnight, but yes to spending time with him for his celebration. Any issues with that as a response?
Well that's up to you. Spend the night if you want, avoid it if you don't want to. As long as you don't have any expectations and do it to support your S then there's no harm in it.
