Not Sure Where This Is Going

[Niall11]

After discussing on Monday how W would honor a schedule and would go out less, she went to a Meetup event after work with no notice. She later said she "put it on the calendar," by which she meant that, the morning of, she wrote it on the wall calendar nobody ever looks at. She put it in the box for the first Tuesday...in March. Because nobody turned the page when the month changed. That's not adequate notice.

She knows exactly what she's doing. She knew she was writing it where you'd never see it, she knew you'd confront her, and she already knew the lies she would tell to cover it. Niall, she is a classic rebellious walkaway. She is pushing and pushing to see how much she can get away with. She has zero respect for you and will continue to cake-eat and take advantage as long as you allow it to happen. Have a look at TXHubby's threads to see how this is going to play out. She will eventually destroy you if you don't take your balls back.

She slept in the living room and is talking about moving out and imminent D.

GOOD. You should encourage her to follow through on this. I'm not saying give up on your M, but you've got to set it aside for now and protect yourself and your D from her GGW antics.

I'm just going to leave it for now. You may be right about her doing it deliberately. She was always a little ditzy about this kind of stuff and she wouldn't have done something like that deliberately, but it seems that everyone's spouse was never the type of person to do this stuff...until they reach this point and they are. Since our D2 was born she hasn't had much freedom to go out and do fun things. She decided to start and now has all these new friends and sees all these events she'd like to go to and is like, "Why not?"

One of the things I wanted/needed to change was being more active with our D2 and I'm very proud of how far I've come with that, but

One question I have: A lot of stories I've read on here involve real GGW activities. Drugs, booze, rampant promiscuity. A lot of my W's stuff is pretty wholesome in and of itself. Yoga. Rock climbing. I know she wanted to have a fling with OW1 in the fall, but I don't even know for sure that there's anything with OW2. Does that matter at all?