What do the vets think about these types of family situations?
Before XW moved out we still did stuff together with the kids. After she moved out, we no longer went to anything together but we still both went. For example, when she lived there, if there was a football game (one D was in the marching band, other on the drill team and S played football) then we would drive there, sit together, watch them, visit with them after, then drive home together. After XW left then we would drive separately but still sit together. My attitude about it was if our kids were looking up into the stands for us (which they ALWAYS did) then I wanted them to see two parents united in support of them, not one parent on the left side of the stands and the other on the right. Now if XW was bringing an OM along then that would be different, I wouldn't sit with them. But she never did. We continued to have birthday parties for the kids together as well, but not for each other. We still do to this day in fact.
Not everyone has this same attitude and there's not really any particular DB'ing "rules" about it, so I'm not suggesting everyone do this. It worked for me though. 7 years post BD I have no regrets about it.
