AS, I agree. I thought we were, her remorse has been deep and continuous. She has given me access to everything including her money to manage.
I thought we were and that's why I was wondering can piecing occur until she has gone through the full 100% withdrawal. Yes i agree in this day in age you can go very covert.
Her whole attitude has changed about me and us but as you know we can never get inside someones head to know what is exactly going on.
I still have 180s in effect and still do GAL activities but when she was giving so much I felt I needed to give back...it was feeling more genuine.
That was my question, pull back? let it play its course? cover my ars? How hard do I DB at this point. W has been with me every night for the last month and a half, is this the withdrawal stage for her?
Thanks for the clarification, now I see where you are coming from. Since she has given you permission to look at her phone (I wouldn't call it "snooping" as that implies you're doing it without permission) then I would bring it to her attention and ask her about it. Try doing it in a way that is not confrontational or accusatory. Give her a chance to explain herself. And if it is as bad as it sounds, DO NOT give her a free pass on it. Explain to her that you feel betrayed and it's making it very difficult for you to trust her again when she does these things. Speak in "I" language- tell her how it makes you feel rather than attacking her.
