I missed your post before I replied. I see where you're coming from; you and the others provide a good reminder to keep expectations out of the equation.
R2C,
I'm assuming that this list of non-negotiables and critical moment are referring to the possibility that she may want to reconcile. I haven't put much thought into such a list, certainly not in recent months. I don't want to cloud my judgement and ability to be present by thinking about it. If that topic comes up, I will tell her that I need time to think about it and make a decision. This is in-line with advice given here and has the added benefit of being true. In reality, I'm not sure if reconciliation is on the table from me, but like I said, I'm not going to think about it unless she puts it out there.
If the critical moment you're referring to is something else, I've clearly expressed my boundaries to her and what I am willing to fight for in the divorce agreement.
