Not Sure Where This Is Going

[Niall11]

Niall, one of the things I had to learn in my sitch was stress management. Finding ways to walk away angry, then deal with that anger. This is very important. Impulsiveness, even when warranted, will not get you to where you want to be. The posters here that are most impulsive have a very difficult time not doing things that cause problems in their sitch. Impulse control is a must, just like patience. The two go hand-in-hand.

Back off. Give it some time to calm down. WASs make a lot of empty threats, this is likely that.

Understood. I've been holding in a lot lately and I messed up. She actually said she was sorry for rolling in at 8 pm and wrecking the bedtime routine for D2, and I stupidly said I didn't think she was all that sorry. 100% the wrong thing to do and probably not even accurate. My reaction had more to do with her overall seeming lack of remorse for the totality of what she's doing. I should've accepted the apology. I should not have presumed to tell her I knew her feelings better than she did. Is "anti-validation" a term?

Yesterday she came in around 7 (there was a rehearsal at her job) and didn't say a word to me. Slept in the other room again. I just left it. This morning I saw her for a few minutes and we exchanged a few words. She is still mad but not as much as before. I won't force the issue.