Careful Alison, I spy the Self Pity Monster in there. Having had a recent attack I can tell you it passes...Sometimes all we can do is work on our end, say what we need and hope they come along for the ride. You have had plenty of positive signs, and it's a lot to expect your husband to change when he's under lots of stress. He *has* shown small signs of change and you need to be optimistic about that instead of circling back into your pessimistic, resentful state where you think things will never change. Stay patient (it is sooooooo hard), look after yourself, take that puppy of yours out for a walk and tomorrow you'll feel better about things. I hope eldest is easier for you today (())
