So I feel like there is a 2x4 in there somewhere, but it's not clearly defined. I generally understand why the dinner is not ideal (extended time around each other, gives away some level of control/perception of control over the situation, perception that I am "available" to her), but I agreed to it to make the whole engagement more neutral (having the kids around tempers emotions, it's at her place so I always have the option to leave, gives her a sense of ease as it's in her environment).
What is the purpose of cancelling last minute? That seems incredibly immature from my perspective - not trying to attack the idea, just wanting to understand the logic.
Additionally, it seems like a couple of you would not entertain listening to her at all - what is the reasoning behind that?
It's clear that you want to go talk her into being married with you and that you have an explanation as to why it makes sense. Yet everyone else sees it differently.
As someone else said, what is the purpose of going? If she wants you, she'll be kicking down your down to get you back. Yet, in her mind, she hasn't lost you.
Don't worry about canceling last minute being immature, it's about being attractive and strong which is what she wants. Read some of R2C's links on attraction.
Cancel on her last minute and go GAL and if you have nothing else to do you can rearrange your sock drawer!!! Hahaha
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
