Not sure. Impulsiveness rarely works. I was way too impulsive with things. I sat on the naked picture discovery for several weeks before confronting. But in the end I had to.
I think l8, what you have to step back and ask, is what makes you look stronger, more respectable? Is snooping on her phone reading deleted emails strong? Confident? Worthy of respect? Will she view you as being properly self-differentiated? As having a life? As cementing your 180s?
If any of those is no, then I would seriously consider just sitting on it. Also, if you tell her about her discovery she will just go deeper undercover with it. Maybe not what you want at this point.
Also, it very well could be that this email is just part of the process of letting go. A stepping stone. Much like the steps a drug addict must go through. You confronting could blow up all of the progress you have made.
In the end, it is your decision. Personally I think this email is a minor thing. Remember, she is going to try and let him down easy if that is what she is going to do. So likely her answer isn't even honest TO HIM. You never know. This is why snooping rarely helps your sitch.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
