Great list, keep that in mind during the convo. Just remember if she does ambush you that in the end whatever she says doesn't mean much. It is a reflection of how she feels at that very moment in time. It could change in a month, week or even day. So even if it's terrible stuff like "I just wanted to tell you it's definitely over, I'll never love you again, please let go" just listen and validate. "I'm sure this has all been very difficult for you." "You sound very frustrated, I can understand why you feel that way." Neutral, validating statements.
