Dead man walking

[LH19]

Yeah you make it crystal fuching clear you will not be in an open marriage.

[Tryhard]

LH , I like it !! It’s more than crystal clear , it’s trans dimensional effing clear . She wants the TH cake or OM not both . I do believe that I have already stated that boundary, and as far as I know there has been none with quite a certainty as I have spent every evening and weekend together and unless she has a clone during the day that is covered too

[LH19]

Yep you already stated that boundary and she broke it with zero consequences which in-turn makes the boundary irrelevant and lowers your value.

I went back and looked and you have told me you would stop serving cake and you keep pushing that deadline back.

I hate to tell you this but she is playing you big time my friend.

[AnotherStander]

Respect I struggle with and seem clueless any ideas anyone?

First, respect yourself. That is the most important thing. No one will respect you if you don't have confidence in yourself and respect yourself. Second, always conduct yourself with the utmost dignity, even (in fact, especially) when those around you do not. Third, do not expect your W to respect you. She won't, not for a long time. Eventually if you get out, GAL, conduct yourself with dignity, she'll have no choice but to respect you. It will be the LAST thing she wants to do though.

[Tryhard]

Lh , I am aware I am taking a risk and I have moved my deadline back as 1 month from BD was too soon . If things continue the same way then I may extend it again , as long as boundary is not crossed . If I am being played then I think it will help me detach as she is being very nice as she always has been . I think she wants us to be friends and I am sure that she can do what she wants , which is not a game I am playing, it’s her choice.

AS , yes self respect is important as is confidence. It’s hard where I am at the moment and GAL I am finding difficult, I do go out once or twice a week on my own and the same with her . I know I have to do this myself but I am just on the bottom of the coaster at the moment. When we are out people naturally interact with me for some reason so I don’t think I will have problems when I can get on a bit more of an even keel

[LH19]

So just out of curiosity, if she goes out alone twice a week, how do you know she isn't with OM?

[Tryhard]

I go out twice a week , she’s there when I get back . Sure she could be but it would be a Herculean effort for 20 mins of madness

[Tryhard]

I have been contemplating how I think that many people don’t post all the info we get to see posted . Do we just get a one sided view ? I am sure she has booked her vacation next week to get away from me , but this is a good thing because it must be very hard having me spring back into life and confuse her as to what to do . I do feel sympathy and understand, but I am still fighting and the break will do me good to work in myself alone

[AnotherStander]

I have been contemplating how I think that many people don’t post all the info we get to see posted . Do we just get a one sided view ?

You mean here on the forums, oh yes, definitely. The WAW side of the story would be much different and probably quite compelling. I have read WAW stories posted on other forums and I can completely understand why many of them feel the way they do. I don't think it's grounds for BD, S and D. But they do make some solid points.

[LH19]

I do go out once or twice a week on my own and the same with her

I am confused. Does she go out twice a week on her own?