The one thing I just don't understand is how people can jump into a new relationship within a year after a long term marriage ends.
I agree, although I'm sure the timeline isn't the same for everyone. I started dating about a year after BD and later realized I wasn't anywhere close to ready. I think we have this feeling of wanting to get in another R as a way to make all the pain and headaches of dealing with our broken M go away, but what really happens is all of that is still there, PLUS the challenges of a new R. It's far better to resolve all the old issues before starting a new R.
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I'm casually dating a woman with a good job and kids the same age as mine. From a practical standpoint teaming up with her is a no brainer. But it doesn't feel genuine. And this leads me to wonder if it will ever feel genuine while I'm still attached to the memory of my marriage.
Yes I can relate to that feeling. It didn't feel right. I bounced in and out of a few relationships before finally settling into one with my current GF. It just took a while to feel comfortable with someone again.
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Maybe forcing myself into a new relationship is what kick-starts the process of finally detaching. Doesn't seem right though.
That was definitely not the case for me. It just led to a lot of confusing feelings about whether I was doing the right thing.
