That all makes sense. In the beginning I was the one who did not want to use lawyers. I was scared and wanted to prolong things. I've learned a great deal about the legal process, the infidelity, and have a chance at getting my children. There is no way I'd do this solo now.
She has been saying its hard for her emotionally and financially. I don't buy it. Her outlook is indeed bleak. There is a chance I will have to pay her legal fees--something I would do if ordered to do so.
She says she wants to do this as quickly as possible in order to help the healing process. I don't buy this either.
Thanks mostly to this place I have learned the process of detachment. A few months ago I may have given in. Not now. Too much has happened.
Oldest kids birthday party is coming up. I went all out. It's the first party I've ever planned so hope all goes well. W tried to intervene and tell daughter certain kids weren't invited because their moms are nosey. I put a stop to that. I got a chance to talk to oldest on her actual birthday. On speakerphone, I could hear W mumbling something. Kid asks me if those kids (with nosey moms) RSVP'd. I said I didn't know. In truth, they have RSVP'd. I don't like the moms either but it's my kids party, not mine or hers. Additionally, W parents, my parents and W brother and family will be there. She doesn't know about her brother. She has told me to stay away from her family, but they have told me otherwise. I hope she doesn't lose her cool.
