Bad timing is my speciality, so I know what you mean. I have dumped my negative stuff on dh before at a really bad time of day or year when he has felt utterly exhausted and unable to cope with it, and it has never ended well! It does sound like your husband was trying his best under difficult circumstances, and also that you were all upset and probably not able to ask for support in the most assertive way possible. Maybe you could rehearse a few different ways of asking for what you need? Or maybe you could just text him a short complaint about your tough morning, making it clear you just want a there there and not a long conversation about it? Getting into details seems like a bad idea when you're both in a bad place... I hope your chat with your friend helps xx
