Hard morning. Eldest was behaving abysmally. I put in the consequences we'd agreed and obviously he got angry and escalated his behaviour. I rang H after he'd gone off to school - mainly because I wanted his support. He was reasonably supportive, but also pretty critical (well he's like this because you've never given him proper boundaries, if Id have been allowed to parent as I saw fit he'd be too scared to act like that...) and that was hard. We didn't argue, and I spoke up for myself, but it didn't feel good.
I get that he feels resentful that he's thought I should have been firmer all along, that caused problems with us, and now I have come to his way of thinking and am making a change and want his support, he is annoyed about that. I validated that. I also feel he's still not considering at all any changes he might need to make in order that we can co-parent together - laying off criticising me and finding fault when Eldest doesn't behave well would be a start. Stopping the blaming and the point scoring would help too. I've asked for that, the family therapist said it needed to happen, and he still can't stop. It still feels very one way and I resent that.
I get I rang him at a bad time and I get he isn't ready to be as supportive as I want him to be, but I am so tired of being left with the dirty work then being criticised when I'm not up to standard.
