Thanks for the input. I'm not 100% if I'm interested in what she has to say, which also means I'm not 100% against hearing it either... I'll play it by ear and see if she even brings it up again. "I'll have to think about it" has been my go-to and it's been very effective in giving me time to formulate a response vs a reaction (although I can see and hear that it annoys her, she's not used to me not providing an immediate reaction). My concern with dinner is about feelings. I think I can manage myself well enough, but I can only control myself and she has shown to be turbulent in her emotions.
Yail,
I agree on the neutral location and especially not being "stuck". My initial thought was at/around her place during a dropoff (have S15 watch S3 while we talk) so I can disengage if needed. I'm flushing out ideas on what she might want to talk about and how I would respond. My gut feeling is it has nothing to do with reconciling, but wanting to spend more time with the boys, especially S3. If that's the case, it presents an issue in that, 1. I don't want to give up time with the boys and/or spend time with her in that dynamic; and 2. Saying that could create the perception that I am an a-hole, which is drama I don't want or need. The other possibilities seem easier to handle.
Neffer,
Thanks for the encouragement!
AS,
I was thinking along the same lines - that she likely won't bring it up again. Appreciate the practical advice, especially about not being immediately available.
R2C,
Are you reading/listening to our conversations? I always press for email, or at the least, text and that is always her response. I do it so I can have time to process and as a CYA tool.
