Hi JB. Sounds like you are doing really well!!! Great, isn't it...when you feel back in control of yourself and your life? Re: a meeting with your W. If she wants to talk and you are still interested in what she has to say, I would go ahead and have a conversation. However, I would do so only if you feel you can go into it with zero expectations and manage your own feelings. Have a few answers prepared ahead of time... the standard "I'll have to think about that." seems to be one that is recommended on here quite a bit. From what you wrote, it sounds as if you W is starting to figure out that the grass isn't necessarily greener on the other side. Also: re: dinner with the boys. I wouldn't worry about confusing S3. He is at an age where he is just living in the moment and probably not even thinking about the meaning behind mom's presence or absence. Generally three year-olds just accept whatever is in front of them. If you don't think you can have the dinner without tension or sadness though, I would decline. Anyway... all sounds positive, TBH. As long as you keep your expectations to a minimum, you should be fine. (((HUGS)))
