Oh Dilly, it's always worse when you are ill and wanting to be coddled a bit. That's not a bad thing. But it's probably too much to expect your H to do that for you now - especially as he's never been able to do that for you.
What was he like when things were going well? Has he always been so obsessed with his own life and work and unable to unselfishly care for you? What would him caring for you look like, in his language?
