tomorrow's hearing has one of the four potential results. Result number one, the court completely rules against me, ex-boxer in law is granted full Grand parent rights and I am made to pay a $5,000 stipend to the court as well as all of their legal fees. Result number two, ex father-in-law is granted his full grandparents rights and I do not need to pay stipend and legal fees. result number three, and this is my proposal, visitation stays as it is where ex father-in-law can't see S4 but only when ex wife is present, S4 cannot sleep over his house. additionally I don't pay court stipend in legal fees. result number four, the case is continued and postpone for another date.
I've done the best I can with the case by myself, I have presented plenty of information the shows that I was well within my rights to file a protective order against my ex-father-in-law. They are claiming that my filing of that protective order was baseless and unfounded because according to them I already knew the nature and severity of his crimes in the past. I did not. I acted as though I would expect any parent to act upon finding out information such as this regarding someone that is close to their child. Any court that does not see that clearly has its priorities mixed up. If I ruled against tomorrow I plan on appealing to a higher level of court
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
Really worried about OK. Him not checking in is a bad sign. With her having lawyerS (yes emphasis on plural) and OK going in pro se, and with the threats the other side was making, I fear the worst. My gut tells me that if things had gone well we'd have heard by now. Maybe I am just being a worry wart.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Sorry to worry you Steve my man, the case yesterday actually went better than I expected. It did not reach a conclusion and will be continued as I expected. however I did a really good job in court considering I was up against two attorneys. They have dropped the Third. the judge had more poignant questions for me than she did for the lawyers, and she stopped them from using their lawyer tactics on me. They also, quite stupidly in my opinion, submitted a piece of evidence that was more damning to their case then it was helpful for them. There is a letter from dcyf that explains that after their investigation they found no evidence of abuse between S4 and X father-in-law. they proudly presented this as evidence without realizing that in the second paragraph of the letter the dcyf employee strongly recommends to my ex-wife that she do not leave our child alone with her dad. It actually said and I quote ex-wife should be very circumspect on who she chooses to leave S4 alone with, especially her father. Additionally the judge accepted my copy of the police report as evidence. I did a very good job explaining the timeline and why I filed a protective order, disproving the timeline they had established which was trying to say that I filed the protective order out of jealous vindictive spite because ex-wife has been on a vacation. I informed the court and backed it up with documentation that I did not hear about her vacation until three days after I filed a protective order and 6 days after I receive the police report. both her and her mother and father left the courtroom with their heads hung low. one of their lawyers could not stop stumbling over his words, he is very young and seemed extremely inexperienced. As I said no conclusion was made but it felt like a victory to me
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
Nicely done Orange! That's a tall order to go into court without a L, but you clearly did an awesome job! I take it that you paying her L fees is all but off the table for now since the judge doesn't view this as "frivolous"? Congrats!
