Turbine, she's done. For now. Will that change? Probably. My XW BD'd me almost 7 years ago. Last weekend our S asked her to show me a scrapbook page she made of our dog (when she was a puppy). When flipping through to it she stopped at a page she had just made, a picture of the two of us with our arms around each other while on vacation in Arkansas. The entire page was that one picture surrounded by nature pictures. In the last year her position has softened considerably. She's not dating. She's inviting me to do stuff with her and the kids. She's been asking a lot of temp check type questions. I have a strong feeling that if I showed one bit of interest that recon might be on the table. The problem is my heart isn't there anymore. Maybe some day, but not now.
So what is my point? It's that you're less than a year since BD, and while it probably seems like forever to you it's not, it's just the start of her recovery. There is no reason for you to take this defeatist attitude you seem to have. It's not over until YOU decide it's over.
