He sounds like he is now at the stage whereby burning the candle at both ends may have ended if he's saying he's old. Depression will make you feel old, tired and sad. Maybe he doesn't realize he's depressed, but he sure sounds like it.

Whatever you decide to do, we will support you. You've definitely got a passive-aggressive man who still hasn't moved too far and is stuck in the mud and can't seem to get himself back on firmer ground.

As for sending your son 3 texts, I could be wrong, but he's afraid that all contact will be cut off after the talk over the weekend. He is still holding on by a thread to his pre-crisis life.

I wish I could offer you more advice, but you know him better than we do. Hang in there!

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.