Maybe we could both experiment and see what works best? Yesterday: dh came home super early and went off to the gym, I took the kids out and he met me there for a walk. Then we went out for a mother's day lunch, we had a nice time all together. Then the kids went off to the shops together and we walked home so dh could go back to work for a few hours (final day). I got a hug goodbye but I haven't had a kiss on the lips since that one time a week ago or so. The walk was ok, he was just talking about work politics and what might happen (he's less optimistic of proper change). I listened and validated and asked questions. We talked about the social run and he said that he thought my friends were being fake cheerful somehow. I said they were just excited to see each other, just like I was, and they are an enthusiastic bunch. They're also quite physically demonstrative, and I'm not sure he's comfortable with that at all! I'm not sure he's capable of taking off his competitive hat and just chatting, he's been competitive for so long he doesn't know how not to do it, even when it's a noncompetitive environment.
I know he's really tired but I could feel he was more distant yesterday, and I felt myself being more distant too. I'd like to know how to get back to where we were a week or so ago when I felt more comfortable being open with him. I also feel really under the weather today with a headache and stomach ache, so I'm just going to park these thoughts and feelings for now.
