Persistent Endurance (Part 2)

[curtis7]

so she could just be open about what she is doing with other men and stop having to hide it.

When you are ready and the opportunity presents itself, flip her words back:

H:"W,The other day, you asked me to be honest with, and I was. I would like you to be open and honest with me. Will you do that?"
W"Bla bla bla bla OK?? bla bla"

Can you handle the truth? Can you listen to W without judgment? Can you validate (IE let her know you hear what she is saying without judging her).

Will it do any good? I do not know. Will it gain you respect? I do not know.

I followed R2C’s recommendation and said “W, the other day, you asked me to be honest with you about whether I was on a date and I was. I would like you to be open and honest with me. Will you do that?”

W said okay and I asked her if she was interacting with other men. I told her I’m not going to judge and that I just want to understand. She said not sexting like she was before, but there are a few that keep contacting her from the dating app and won’t leave her alone. She said the relationship with 25 year old OM1 is completely over.

I validated her and she started to go into how she thought I was a loose cannon and didn’t know what I was going to do next. She referenced the cryptic messages where I’m vague on my whereabouts when I’m out GAL. She said it’s manipulative and thinks I could be stalking her or having her followed. She said I ruined her night (the one where she had the hotel reserved), when I asked her to take the kids with her to divorced BFF’s. She said she was very upset with the girls that night and was ready to contact a L, but didn’t follow through.

She went on to say that she wants her freedom to do whatever she wants whenever she wants. I validated by saying I know. It seems like W and I are both in a similar state of mind continuously wondering what the other is going to do next.