Listen... all you LBS’s who think you have lost something because your lame ass husband (or wife) decided someone out there offered him/her a better life... LET THEM GO!!!! The sooner you do, the better off you will be. I was DEVASTATED when my H left... DEVASTATED. I never thought I would be here in a million years. But when the dust settles and the fear subsides, it is amazing how clearly you start to see things. You DO NOT need someone else to define you or make you happy. You don’t. You are enough just the way you are. Make yourself happy and let your S go... it will end up being the best and smartest thing you EVER did.
Love and (((HUGS))) to you all!!!
Hey DV (((HUGS))),
I’m glad OLD is treating you well. I wish you all the luck, and you deserve someone amazing, and I hope you find that person in time.
I saw this before but didn’t get to comment—thank you for posting this.
I was devastated with all the BDs that W gave to me since a year ago February, and like you, I never thought I would be here, either, but here we are.
This past week for Spring Break has been loads of me doing stuff for myself (and the boys), and that has brought me so much joy. It’s so nice to do things for myself, and to love on the boys.
Tbh, I am a bit scared of W’s threats of leaving (she has threatened to move out this week—more on my thread), but with how she’s been since a year ago February, and especially since October, I just don’t want this version of her in my life right now. I especially like your description of ‘lame ass’ wife—I think of the person W is / has been recently, and it is like she is a totally different person. Couldn’t have come up with a better descriptor myself.
Also tbh, I’m more than a bit sad for the boys—I wanted them to grow up in a household with both mom and dad, and I am sad that if / when this D goes through, that I’ll get them for half-time, and I’ll be missing that other half. I hate that, am mourning that, and it tears me up inside. I have also read on here that that time I’m away from them I can recharge and work on myself so I can be more present to them, and there may be something to the whole ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’ sentiment, but I always thought that was more for lovers, than children. Maybe I will come to acceptance on that part in time.
