Grace...so nice to hear from you and thank you for your kind words. RE: the divorce. My H is filing. It’s his show so he may as well pay for most of it. Whether or not to file is completely up to you. If you don’t think it will help you detach and you still have hope that things will change, I would say you should just leave things as is. If there comes a time when you feel differently and want a divorce, it will be an easy decision. I would not, however, file to try to get a reaction out of him or nudge him in any way. You might only be setting yourself up for disappointment if you don’t get the outcome you are hoping for. (((Grace))). I know how hard this is.
So...spent more time with Facebook guy. We were just going to get together today but he was bored last night and had to pick up some things at Costco so I suggested he stay over as I had a couple spare rooms with the kids away. He showed up at around 8:00 and met my stepdaughter who had just arrived. They bonded over tattoos...lol. She left soon after to go out with her sister and he and I played some pool (he has clearly played before) and then sat out on my deck talking until around midnight. The next morning he made me and my stepdaughter breakfast and then left to go to Costco. He texted me awhile later and I drove to meet him at a local lake so we could go on a hike.
OMG... this was not a nice stroll around the lake. We basically hiked straight up the mountainside for an hour and a half until we got to the top and could see the ocean. By the end of the hike, my Fitbit told me I did over 15,000 steps, 9.6 kilometres and 175 flights of stairs...lol. I was pretty proud of myself for not having to stop too many times. We did stop for a few minutes half way up to look at the lake before continuing to the top. He does hikes like this two to three times a week. I can totally see why he is in such great shape. At the very least, I am going to get in a lot better shape if I spend any kind of time with him. After the hike, we had a little picnic next to the lake. It was really nice. We sat and talked some more and just enjoyed the view and the quiet calm of the water. After the picnic, he headed off to his place to go kayaking with a buddy of his (yes...he seems to be incapable of just sitting for very long) and I headed back to my place. I can feel that tomorrow is going to be a pretty sore day for me...lol. My muscles are just not used to hiking like that. I get why he likes it so much though. Once you get used to it, it would be a fantastic way to get/stay in shape.
My kids are back tomorrow. Haven’t seen them since Wednesday so really looking forward to seeing them. Facebook guy has his daughter on Monday and Tuesday. My kids are going to their dad’s on Wednesday for an overnight so Facebook guy is going to come for dinner so I can teach him how to make my favourite Thai curry. So...after spending all this time with him, I still don’t know how I feel about him...lol. It is the weirdest thing. I just really, really like being around him. I scrolled through his friends list on Facebook today. Was surprised to see how many friends we have in common and I didn’t know him. Small world, I guess.
Sent a “break-up” text to Tinder guy because he keeps sending me texts and is clearly into me. I was as nice as I could be and told him that I think he deserves someone really great but that I know that person isn’t me. I even told him I was seeing someone. So... 24 hours later, he sends me a text that he is having some surgery soon and after he recovers, he would like to date me... as if he hadn’t even read what I sent. I couldn’t believe it. My SD19 says I should just block him on my phone. Luckily he does not know my last name nor where I live.
Anyway...that’s it for an update from me. Love and (((HUGS))) to you all!!!
