Well....W and I had a convo...at first she approached me about splitting bills.
Then it morphed it a conversation about how she is planning on leaving, moving out and taking the boys. I told her that she cannot take the boys—that I have as much legal right to them as she does.
She apparently plans on moving out in the next few days, supposedly. She already has plans on what she will do and where she will live, and will apparently take herself off of our lease.
She plans on not fighting me for much in the condo—except she will take the kids’ furniture, and I’ll have to replace it apparently.
I did my best to validate as much as I could, but she repeatedly told me how deceptive I’ve been / am being towards her. She hates that I answer her questions with questions, that I parrot things back to her, and that not once have I told her how I’m feeling about anything. She also talked about how much that hurts her.
She wants one of us to live here, so OS can still be in school at his current school. I told her I’m not sure what my plans are or what they look like, but that I will do what is best for me and the boys.
I finally got an ILY from her, which I reciprocated, but she told me that the man she married wouldn’t keep things from her, would not be deceptive, and would answer her questions. She also did not / does not what to get lawyers involved. I validated “that must be very difficult for you” and “I wish things would be different.”
The conversation ended when she tried faux validation on me. I told her that I would not be mocked, and that if that continued, I will walk away. She continued to do that, and I said that I see that I am being mocked, goodnight.
W and I will talk on Monday night about what our plans are—she wants specifics from me about how to keep OS in his current school, and what life will look like for me. She wants me to share first, and then she will share her specifics.
She also talked about how she can afford our current place better than I can—that she has less debt than me (apparently she doesn’t understand community property law), and she also seems to believe that I will pay her child support because she will take YS for breast-feeding (according to her, pumping is not the same; though my L doesn’t believe that what she said is compelling).
These are just some of the ‘highlights’ right now, I’m sure there are others.
