How could it not (be) me cause people don’t just leave good relationships.
Oh yes they do. My ex and I had a good relationship. Intellectual companions. Great sex life. Yes, in retrospect he was a narcissist but I was a good match for him because my strong sense of self could withstand that. Of all our couple friends, we were probably the couple people would have picked as having the strongest relationship.
My marriage didn't break because the relationship wasn't good, it broke because my ex couldn't be satisfied. Nothing made him happy enough - he always needed new challenges, change, including new young women so he could fool himself into thinking he wasn't aging. I think my marriage lasted 24 years precisely because it WAS good - I doubt he could have made it nearly that long with anyone else.
Stop second guessing yourself- you're a good mom and partner and this last guy wasn't right for you. You made the right decision.
