You sound like you're doing brilliantly Harvey. I'm glad your girls are adjusting. I know how worried you were. I see my two sometimes and I think it would be easier if their father and I didn't see each other so often. The kids watch for signs - happiness, anger, etc - when they see us together.
Though I am not religious, I have faith it will get better because ultimately my H and I are good parents.
Got plans for any more holidays - hows that bucket list going?
I know we will co-parent well. Interacting with my XW doesn't even bother me that much anymore. I've been in constant contact with her for the last few days, but it's like water off a duck's back. I think I'm in a good spot. To be honest the more I talk to her, the more I see her flaws. I still think she's a good person, and I would rather still be married, but I'm in a far different place than I was six months ago. I'll be alright. My girls will be alright. There will be some pluses. I no longer have to parent with a perfectionist looking over my shoulder. I'll be in control of my own money and my own happiness.
My situation was weird. I had little chance to save my marriage--yet it allowed me to detach much faster.
I'm living in limbo, but I'm still GAL'ing. I'll be taking the girls to Florida for Spring Break. After I get back, I'll be going to Vegas with a buddy. I also have plans to travel to Germany this summer.
