I'm bothered by the fact that she can continue to say that "you're not the victim"
She's not going to walk around town saying you know what PJ was the best husband/BF ever. He was kind, generous, loving, great dad, funny, spontaneous etc.
How in the h$ll could she justify to everyone (including your kids someday) that she was leaving you to tramp around town? Of course she will paint you as the victim. It's your choice to act like the victim.
No one will every say or make you feel a way that you don't allow them to.
