Dealing with a complex MLC and/or Wayward Wife #2

[P_Jam]

As far as 'victim' - yes I guess I"m a little confused. If I'm not a victim of these actions and her betrayal - What am I?

I know that I "shouldn't" act like a victim - as I will be okay with out her as well has having something to do with the breakdown of the marriage - but what then is this, from my perspective. He ongoing PA/EA after being confronted and told that she cannot continue while living under this roof, as well as treating me like I"m 'crazy' for snooping and following up to prove she is lieing (feels a little abusive). What is a better term?

Agreed, kids the major victims as they had NO part in this at all. Don't deny that.