Also found put her dad didnt help her with her new car. Her BF allegedy bought it. Wheres the profit in lying anout that?
Probably just to save face. She beats the drum about how she wants to be independent and free, so it's no doubt embarrassing that she can't even work out basic transportation without someone rescuing her.
Court coming up on Tuesday. I have been a ball of nerves. Their lawyers are requesting from the court that I pay all of their legal fees in addition to a $5,000 stipend to the court for wasting the Court's time. According to them my filing of a protective order against my ex father-in-law was baseless and unfounded, on the grounds that they're claiming that I already knew all about his past. As I've said before the only thing I was ever told was that he was and I quote, accused of the very bad things he did not do. At no point in the last 6 years did my ex-wife her mother or her father explain to me in detail the nature of his charges, the severity of his charges, the fact that they were sexual in nature, or the fact then he despite pleading down from felonies to misdemeanors was still charged with these crimes. I cannot understand for the life of me how they're claiming that my request for a protective order against someone with a recorded history of sexual abuse against children is unfounded and baseless. despite the fact that they have three lawyers I still do not have a single one. As all of my money goes to Furnishing a household for our child wow she still has him sleeping on air mattresses in her bedroom, and her boyfriend's house. neither one of them has made any attempt to get my son his own room. if their concern was truly for the best interests of S4 then they would realize that if I am meet accountable for all of that money by the court all it is going to do is cause me to lose my apartment and further detriment S4. Beyond the fact but it would be vastly unjust, the way they're going about this court case has made it very clear that they are more concerned about winning and money then they are about the well-being of S4. I only hope that the court is able to see this as I do. most of you know I am not a religious man, but I will be honest, any thoughts and prayers for Tuesday's outcome are well Appreciate it. I can't wait for this all to be over
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
Prayers always for you OK! Don't fret it, this is a common tactic by an attorney looking for a dismissal of the case. "If we file to have him pay for your court costs and the court's time then maybe he will just abandon the whole thing!" What does your lawyer say? Surely they've seen these kind of tactics before.
Say the course my friend, it will all work out. Try to take care of yourself. Being a ball of nerves is no way to live. Do you have any outlets for that? Exercise? Hobbies?
One of mine that I haven't mentioned is to just get on my ATV and ride! Just to ride. No where in particular to go just get on and ride. I know not everyone has access to that kind of thing but maybe there are similar things someone can do. Even a couple of turns on a go-kart track and work wonders.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Thank you Steve that's reassuring, I have heard people mention that before but I wasn't sure how accurate it was, as far as it being a scare tactic to try and get me to drop the case. I'm operating well, the anxiety does not cripple me like it used to that my last job. I'm glad to say that my current job keeps me busy all day and I don't have time to sit and marinate in my anxiety in a cubicle like I used to. I also got out of work a lot earlier than I used to, so that affords me a lot of time in the afternoon to get things done or pursue activities that I enjoy. I live in Northern New England so spring is just now arriving, I was sick a lot this winter as well I think due to weakened immune system from Stress and Anxiety. So needless to say I've been looking forward to Spring quite heavily. it makes my weekends with S4 much more enjoyable as we can get out and do stuff outside, same goes for me. it's a rainy crappy day and I'm on my way home from work, but I have a lot of cleaning and housework to do today. So that will keep me busy. Honestly the best outlet I have is my Dungeons & Dragons group. That at least gets my mind entirely off my situation and pretty much the Real World At Large for 3 or 4 hours a week. I try to see if I can get two sessions in a week if I can.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
OK, that sounds awesome! So happy for you. I truly believe in the old adage "what doesn't kill us makes us stronger" (now Kelly Clarkson's song is stuck in my head!) You are going to be like a rock in a storm moving forward related to stress and anxiety!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
despite the fact that they have three lawyers I still do not have a single one.
Am I reading this correctly? You don't have a lawyer for this? And they have 3? I wish you the best, but you are walking into a gunfight with a pointy stick my friend.
I wasted all my credit keeping a roof over S4 & EXW's head while she was out fking OM. Then any financial leeway i had was dumped into getting a home for S4 after a year of couch surfing. I have said several times over the course of the last6 months that ive been Pro Se this entire case as i cannot afford an attorney. I called every office i could find looking for pro bono work. Nobody would help me.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
I wish you the best of luck. I would never walk into a court without representation, it is a maze of pomp and circumstance and bureaucratic craziness that I could never navigate on my own. Even for a simple D I was so thankful to have an L there once I realized all the red tape that was involved. And not just any L, but one familiar with that particular court and judge because apparently they all have their own quirks. Anyway good luck and hopefully it'll all work out!
