Holy cow! It's Tad...

[AndrewP]

Hi Tad

I'm more a subscriber to the "selfish jerk" school than the "MLC" one these days.

I honestly have no clue what's going on in my own ex-wife's mind especially at present but also got the "be friends" thing. My own take is that they don't understand that their actions have consequences. As do our own.

I see over and over here and elsewhere stories where the LBS is expected to continue to do the adulting and is just taken for granted. The lovely lady I am currently dating has that exact thing going on in fact.

With all that said there are consequences. Loss of home and family. Loss of standing in the community. Financial, emotional, health. We see here many of the LBS ending up in a better place than they have been for years as their former partner had been dragging them down and not holding them up.

Will my ex, your ex ever feel remorse for what they did? In my case I have doubts because that would involve her admitting that she was wrong and that she hurt people. Regrets? I fully expect that she has a fair number of them but for what happened to her.