Standing our ground - together as a family

[Irish M]

Hope you are all doing well in this journey we all share.

a little update from XW. Well it was me who had to reach out to her. Where I live we are having our property assessments done. The original property lines are outdated and they will be measuring properties with advanced equipment. I figure they are just looking to increase land calculations per property so they can turn it into tax revenue.

So they requested the original property plan that was used when I purchased the house. I need to have it or I need to pay a surveyor to redo it and get it stamped by the notaty at the bank. a few hundred dollars.

I looked all over and couldn't find it. Then it hit me. My XW when she left took a lot of paper work out of the files. Most of it was old files that should of been shredded any way. But this folder was a keeper. So i messaged her

the response i got was a no surprise.

I texted a simple question. Hi, would you happen to have the property plans we had done when we purchased the house?

she replied right away.

I don't need to hear from you. If the girls want to message me the door is open. It's not the case for YOU!!!

that's nice, but its not what I was asking about. The property plans we had when we went to the notary, do you have them?

Listen. I won't help you. I won't message the girls. You all have to understand I have a new life. YOU are not part of it.

XW, this isn't about the girls, you know they are teens and they won't make the first move. You are the adult. If you chose not to its a Dead end. Concerning me, i am not asking to be part of your life. I need only the plans for the property.
Sorry to have bothered you. I see anger is still prominent. Have a great day

Well YOU are not in my life!!! The girls know how to reach me.

So that didn't go as planned. lol . so i'm out 900$

I sense anger will be part of her path. It's sad really.

on a happier note. Girls are doing great in school. D18 she is top of her class this semester , a big change from last year. D16 is also hitting the honor roll. They have both stepped up in school and I am so proud.

As for myself. Planning our summer weekends and most of all our trip to Ireland after my 50th birthday. We are so excited.
I lucked out on the flights. I almost booked WOW airlines 2 weeks ago for the trip. Good thing I didn't , they just closed shop today. No refunds.

take care everyone.


.