I hear ya. It's scary, unfamiliar, and lonely im sure once you realize they are going to be gone. On the other hand it'll probably stabilize your emotions and allow you to focus more on yourself which may be liberating.. I haven't hit that phase yet and I probably won't for another 6 months until we sell the house. We had the whole talk last night on her bday none the less, after giving me a hug and a sincere thank you hug for the thoughtful presents (My 180) and about how she is going to be a mess that day we sell, because of all the failed hope, dreams, and memories. W initiated convo. This time I just shut up, listened and validated, and she just kept on talking without me even having to say a thing, or show any emotions. Not a great improvement, but not bad considering we haven't R talked or even talked playfully in months kind of emotionally unavailable and avoidant.
This quote of yours is perfect.
" It's about being present, being personable, being attractive without pursuing. Something I haven't really been able to feel or do until about 30 minutes ago. So although I have made some good/positive steps as it relates to the overall goal. I need to detach but detach with love. Which also means I need to stop trying to hurt her, by throwing her actions back in her face. I do keep trying to remind myself that she too is scared and worried and hopefully with the right amount of space/time - she will figure it all out. "
