Everything is counter-intuitive. Everything is fair in love and war.
The firm boundaries ovrrnbw mentioned above work. The firmer and sooner the better. We can help draft up your "script". Let us know.
think about these statements:
"I do not want to be with a man who wants to be with other woman" "I will not share my man with other woman" "I want to be with a man who wants to be only with me"
Thank you everyone for the support already!
I need to set up boundaries but have no idea what. I don't plan on divorcing H, I prefer to work things out and hopefully end up with a marriage that was better than before. I feel like my H is a good person who made a bad choice. I took my vows seriously and want to try to save the marriage, if it can be saved.
I do believe that H is depressed, and has been for the past 7 years or so. I've mentioned that he should see a doctor but he does not want to. With that being said, I do have to be careful with what I say to him.
I would like to hear some ideas on boundaries and a script.
