ST: I did read some more on temperature checks vs. the much more substantial changes needed before R is possible.
Steve: Very good illustration. I'm getting better at doing this on the outside and with my words. Not getting emotional on the inside or being affected after the fact is a work in progress.
R2C: Gotcha. I'm working on it.
Appreciate everyone's help and advice very much. People here know what they're talking about for having lived it.
M 44, W 32 T 10, M 8 D 2 Oct '18: Fantasy affair with OW1 (yes, W) Feb '19: Inseparable from new lesbian BFF Still live together but a lot of tension