She could very well be hiding something or....she is looking at what it is going to cost in attorney fees. She evidently doesn't want to face the consequences of her actions...which means money for those attorney fees. I would continue as you have been. You've been honest and forthcoming w/her, as well as providing her w/money on gift cards. You have to do what is right for you and your children.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
