Dealing with a complex MLC and/or Wayward Wife #2

[P_Jam]

OK - your persistence is paying off.

You ask: "how do you think it will help"
1. I know she has enough left to feel bad about 'openly' hurting me. Letting her know that I know, might trigger a little more guilt
2. She is in a bit of shock about her actions - not letting her keep this EXTREME a 'secret' I think helps with the necessary loss/shame
3. as Sandi noted.. for whatever reason (probably the above) I'm bursting to let he know what I know. And if it doesn't hurt the sitch.. it's then off my chest at least and not something I'm always trying to find an avenue to discuss.

Very early on in this sitch I talked to her about sexual compulsion (because of my previous issues) I also talked about Limmerence (because of my previous issues). She flat out denied that any of this is a 'compulsion' and I think she believed it at the time. Since then she went GGW - and my thinking is.. she might start to understand the need for help. As she is not able to 'control' it. And I know she has thoughts/issues about it. Her conversations are.. "I really need to stay in 'control' tonight (when talking to friends).

Now.. when I say your persistence i paying off - it's mainly because of your point about IC probably telling her to leave me. She has asked questions about possibly seeing the same IC I see - which I think would be fine, but she is reluctant for fear of me hearing about her issues... So this MIGHT just be the reason to not give my 'speech'. If she goes to any IC (not mine) it might hurt. <-- this is making some logical sense and giving me a 'reason' not to have the conversation. But because of the above it is still not an easy decision.